Financial domination. Few people outside of Domme Dose and other findom communities have heard about it, and those who have, often misunderstand it. Wild stories circulate in mainstream media, and even many in the findom scene have a warped view of what it involves.
In this article I will attempt to clarify what financial domination is, what it is not, look at different practices, and different types of slaves and dommes. Send this article to your vanilla friends – if you dare! You may also learn a few things yourself.
Many people find financial domination difficult to comprehend because they can’t imagine a fetish relationship where the primary focus is on giving money and gifts. I too found this strange at first. But that is exactly what financial domination is: domination of a submissive who has a fetish for giving money to a dominant.
Submissives with a financial fetish are not always wealthy. Some are, but others have average incomes. To some finsubs, a $100 tribute is a lot, to others it’s just getting started.
Financial domination often comes integrated with other fetishes. For instance, a financial slave may have a cuckold fetish. They love giving the dominant money to pay for dates or vacations with her boyfriend. A financial slave with a foot fetish may want to buy shoes and send money for pedicures.
Don’t confuse financial dommes with sugar babies, who are expected to be sweet and loving towards the sugar daddy. Many sugar babies discover financial domination and think that it is virtually the same thing, but the “domination” part of “financial domination” makes it something else entirely.
Let’s start by taking a look at your typical money slave. This is someone who strictly has a fetish for giving money (tributing) to a superior female.
What arouses money slaves most of all is often the idea that the woman they are tributing has to do little or no work to obtain money. They love to see images of the woman looking completely relaxed, holding large sums of cash. They have little desire to see the woman naked, and this could even be a huge turn off for them.
Money slaves come in different forms. There are slaves who enjoy it when the domme demands money. Others prefer to surprise the domme and don’t like demands being made.
There are long-term and short-term money slaves. Long-term money slaves tend to stick with one dominant and give her any extra cash they have each week/day/month. Some will do extreme things to obtain more money, like going into debt, finding another job, or selling their possessions.
Some long-term money slaves go even further. They give the dominant all of their financial information (income, bills, etc.) and the dominant then controls and decides how much the slave is allowed to spend for themselves, the rest all going to her. In my experience many financial slaves may fantasize about this sort of situation, but only a few will actually take it to that level.
The short term money slave follows a more irregular pattern, with occasional bursts of spending. He will find himself becoming aroused from thinking about handing his money to a dominant. He may then start by tributing small amounts, building up to larger numbers. Each tribute makes him feel more aroused, until he loses all self-control. Before the night is over he may have given a large percentage of his money to the dominant.
These slaves often seek out a different dominant each time, or cycle between a few regular ones. Dommes refer to these as “drive by money slaves.” Many such slaves feel shame and regret afterwards. They may cancel sent gifts, try to reverse payments, and tell themselves that it’s the last time.
Some even become addicted to financial domination. They will feel happy during a session/money draining, and then feel horrible about themselves afterward. Just like gambling addicts and alcoholics, they may take precautions in an attempt to limit themselves – like making their funds unavailable to be spent online or over a certain limit. Sometimes they will give their wife/girlfriends control of their finances. When they relapse they freak out about having to explain where the money went. There are financial slaves of this nature who have trapped themselves in this same pattern for years, some even decades.
Long-term financial slaves can also get into trouble, but this depends on the agreements made, and the demands made by the dominant. Long-term slaves often have regular contact with their dominant, and will be able to hear about what their money was spent on. It excites them to see their dominant living luxuriously.
It’s important to note that money slaves tend to be immediately turned off if they feel that their dominant actually needs the money. They want to be used by her, to give her more on top of what she has already. They don’t want to feel as though their dominant relies on their money to make ends meet. They want her to live luxuriously and spend their money frivolously, without a second thought.
Another type of financial slave, and the most prone to trouble is the financial slave with a blackmail fetish. Let’s take another look again at the short-term slave who gets trapped in the addictive pattern of spend/happy – comedown/unhappy – afterwards/guilt.
They may begin to fantasize about handing over personal information that could ruin their social lives, like humiliating photos of themselves, along with contact information for their wife or boss.
Most never take this further than fantasy, but some go as far as drawing up blackmail contracts with a domme. This can be extremely dangerous when the dominant is inexperienced (or is exceptionally ruthless and evil) or very new to D/s. It can also have legal consequences for both the domme and the money slave. The dominant should make a good assessment of the individual situation (including the mental state of the submissive) before actually becoming involved with a blackmail agreement.
For instance, in rare cases someone claiming to be a blackmail slave may use a dominant in attempt to blackmail someone other than themselves. It is extremely important that the domme ensures that the person is in fact who they say they are.
There are many types of financial dommes as well. Many see financial domination strictly as a way to make easy money. Others may look at it as their job, some as their lifestyle, and some as their own fetish.
For every successful financial domme, there are countless who will never make anything close to a living doing it.
Some women sell video clips on clip stores like Kinkbomb and Clips4sale, or pay-to-view mails on sites like Niteflirt. I’ve noticed that these sites attract different types of financial slaves. Slaves who prefer to give tributes during a cam session gravitate towards clip stores. Those who prefer to just hand over money and get nothing in exchange will usually go to a site like Niteflirt. Here they can call an ignore line, or buy previously made pay-to-view emails. They can spend hundreds or thousands of dollars without the domme ever interacting with them.
People who are unfamiliar with financial domination often misunderstand what it involves, because they overlook the domination/submission aspect of it.
Financial slaves are submissives. They regard the domme as superior to them, feeling that the domme deserves the money more than they do. They want her to live a perfect life of luxury, where her every whim and desire are met (usually while laughing at what a pathetic tool the sub is).
I’ve found that some slaves prefer to serve younger/inexperienced dommes because they are afraid of the psychological powers an experienced domme can have over them. Others seek new dommes because they feel that they can help to educate the domme about their fetish, and help her acquire as many money slaves as possible. They can be highly flighty, and tend to seek out 18-20 year old dommes, usually serving anywhere from a few months up to a year before finding another.
Some financial slaves “slut,” or, secretly tribute other dommes on the side to satisfy their own cravings. Some will try to “top from the bottom,” or, try to get the domme to satisfy their wants in manipulative ways so they can get off while maintaining the illusion of having no power over her.
The type who seek out younger and inexperienced dommes tend to be more manipulative in this sense. Often they do not realize this, and convince themselves that they are helping the domme and not being selfish.
Some women have a genuine fetish for having slaves serve them, while others find that they are just good at using slaves for their benefit (but don’t really care about it). Both types are desired by money slaves. To some it can be arousing that the domme is only using them for money, while others like to know that the domme enjoys D/s.
I cannot write from personal experience when it comes to real-time financial domination, but I can write of the most common fantasies I hear of from money slaves. They will often fantasize about meeting the domme at an ATM and just letting her withdraw what she wants from their bank account, or meeting her, handing her cash/credit cards while she laughs at how easy it is for her to use him.
Sometimes financial domination is incorporated into forced intoxication. Here a domme will instruct the sub to become intoxicated, and demand tributes that get larger as the sub becomes more intoxicated. The sub enjoys “getting stupid” for her. They find that their submissive side is at its peak when they are inebriated. Their rational side disappears as their world-view narrows, and they are completely unaware of anything but the domme and their desire to please her.
I mentioned earlier that some form addictions to financial domination. This in itself is also a fetish. Basically, the domme will offer “financial domination therapy/recovery,” and will roleplay that they care about the sub and want to help them – doing this while taking their money, pretending that each payment is a step to recovery.
I find it amusing how judgmental people can be about financial domination. When financial domination is covered in mainstream media, readers often react with disgust. They may understand and accept the most perverted of fetishes, but financial domination makes them wary.
I spoke with someone who had a fetish for golden showers, but was disturbed by financial domination. So, getting your face pissed on is more normal than wanting to give money to beautiful, intelligent and superior women? It would be easier to understand for many if the Dommes were being paid to perform sexual favors.
But that’s just it! The women don’t need to exploit their bodies or do anything they don’t enjoy to make money. I explained all of this to a friend the other day who had never heard of it. They said that it was absolutely brilliant. The women who are successful financial dommes are brilliant, truly.
We are strong, intelligent, beautiful and dominant women who have realized that we can make money (and a lot of it) by exploiting the weaknesses of submissives who want to hand over their cash while we laugh at them, and if we feel like it, humiliate them and allow them glimpses of our beauty, intelligence, and the superior lives we lead.
This was original published as part of My weekly column for dommedose.com. The original can be found here.